Back on the (healthy) wagon…

For months leading up to the wedding, Ryan and I were being super cautious about everything we ate. We had a strict workout schedule, and we really worked to look our best. I said no to afternoon chocolate and no to the extra beer after work. Two months later, I can already see how we have fallen off the wagon.

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On our honeymoon feeling healthy and toned.

First let me preface this by saying I haven’t gained a pound. I’ve actually been the same exact weight for about six months now. I’m ok at this weight (I would appreciate if I was five pounds less–but more on this later). It’s not about the weight. It’s about our eating habits and exercise commitments. And yes I am saying “our” because my husband and I are both guilty. I feel gross. I don’t feel toned. And, I know I’m not treating my body the best way that I can.

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Mimosas on Masters Sunday is okay. Mimosas every Sunday is not okay.

I can’t tell you how many peanut butter sandwiches I eat in a week. If I’m hungry when I get home from work, I grab a piece of bread and load it up with pb. I don’t think much of it and I eat it in two minutes, but I know that extra 200-300 calories isn’t doing me any favors. I’d be better off grabbing an apple and dipping in some peanut butter–or peeling an orange. Ryan and I have also come up with a great excuse too many times a week to have a few beers or wine. Trust me, I know if I stopped drinking for a month those extra five pounds would fall right off–but that just isn’t going to happen. I like my wine too much. I do know I need to set a limit, though.

As for the exercise, I’m still doing spinning 1-2 times a week. And I still go to hot yoga about every other week. That’s it. Pretty pathetic. I find every excuse in the world to not workout. Two months ago I was using a dry erase board to make sure I did a workout at least four times a week. And it had to be a mixture of strength and cardio. Ryan did this too and we both supported each other to make sure we got our weekly workouts in.

I did all of this leading up until the wedding, so why did I stop and when did I become lazy again?

I’m a goal setter. I need a reason to do most things that require work. Right or wrong, it’s just how I function. Before my reason was the wedding. Pretty big deal and good reason to get in great shape. This time around, my reason/goal is going to be simple. I want to feel good again. I want to be proud of the work I’ve done and happy with how my body has responded.

Here are my weekly goals:

  • Cardio twice a week. Strength/yoga twice a week.
  • Two pieces of bread per day is my limit. There are days I eat two pieces for breakfast, and sandwich for lunch, and a piece of bread with dinner. Holy carbs!
  • More fruits and veggies as snacks instead of sweets.
  • Go on a walk before work twice a week with Rogue.
  • Only have one glass of wine instead of two a few nights a week.
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See, I can workout AND have a beer.

These aren’t hard goals to reach, they just take effort. We all have bad days, weeks, even months. I don’t see this as depriving myself at all. I see it as getting back to what I was doing before. So, cheers to becoming a healthier version of myself…again.

Summa, Summa, Summatimmmee

This morning I woke up to snow. LOTS of snow. So much snow that I had to scrape off my car and wear my winter boots and coat. We played golf on Sunday–in shorts. I know, I know, everyone is tired of the snow and everyone is also tired of hearing everyone complain. But, really?!

So, with that being said, I’m looking forward to a brighter and warmer time–SUMMER.  I’m so excited about summer that I’ve decided to dedicate an entire post to the things I’m most looking forward to. (I know spring comes first, but so far this spring has been less than encouraging.)

What I’m looking forward to this summer:

Golf. Last summer I spent the April and May dealing with a broken thumb, and the entire month of July dealing with vertigo. I basically got to play three times total, and I think it rained each time. I have signed up for an actual competititve women’s tournament in June, so I have to play to get my game back in shape!

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Throwback golf picture from the college days.

Concerts. We had three concerts scheduled in July last summer, but due to vertigo we only attended one, and that concert ended in me sitting in the back on the ground trying not to vomit everywhere. I’m pushing for more exciting experiences this year and hope to see some of our favorites live!

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County Jam 2011..I think.
Avett Brothers 2013
Avett Brothers 2013

Bar Crawls. Really, just drinking outside in general. Day drinking is one of my favorite things ever…especially in 75 degree weather.

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Thirsty Turtle bar crawl
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CYP Bar Crawl 2012

5K’s. I’ve tried to like running. I really have given it a good, strong effort. I just can’t do it. Running anything more than 3 miles is miserable to me. I love 5K’s because there is usually a cause, theme, or good reason why I’m out there forcing my body to run.

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The Memorial Tournament. This is more of a spring thing, but since it’s usually 80+ degrees, I’m counting this as summer. This is my favorite week of the year in Columbus. We now live really close to Muirfield, so we are taking full advantage of our location and walking to and from each day.

Vacation. We have nothing scheduled as of right now, but since my best friend just moved back to Nashville, I’m hoping we’ll take a trip to the dirty South.

2012 vacation to Savannah
2012 vacation to Savannah

House hunting. I know this isn’t at the top of my husband’s list, but it is mine. Realistically, we won’t be buying a house until this fall at the earliest, but I want to get the process moving and start to look at a few houses that are on the market to get a good idea of what we can get with what we want to spend.

Here’s hoping to a healthy and injury free summer. What are you most looking forward to?

 

What I’ve learned after one month of marriage.

Yes, you read that right. I’m sharing marriage insight after only a mere 31 days. Ryan and I got married on March 1, and while a week of this past month was spent in paradise on our honeymoon, we have already dealt with the things that any married couple, regardless of the length of the marriage, has to deal with.

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Here are ten things that I’ve learned during our first month of marriage:

1. Not a whole lot changes. We lived together for about a year and a half before we tied the knot, so there weren’t any surprises when it came to shacking up after marriage. I still don’t put the lids on things tight enough, and he still places apple and fruit stickers all over the house–both because it drives each other crazy.

2. Everything changes. There is a weird sense of security with marriage. Not that I thought he was going to leave me before if we had a fight, but now I know he can’t (well he could, but we won’t go into those details). With that security also lends the opportunity to say things you might not normally say–things that might hurt a little bit more just because you can. This might not make sense to the average person (or any male), but for me and lots of women, we like to see how far we can push our counterparts. This is something I’m working on…

3. Now we are REAL adults. I’m 26, he’s 28. We’ve been adults (kinda) since we graduated college and starting paying our own bills. It’s different once your married–you have to sign each other as dependents, talk about who has the better insurance, fill out a bunch of tax info, deal with the government to change your name, and talk about a real savings plan so that you can someday have that house with a walk-in closet.

4. We are a team now. And being a team means we need to support each other every way we can. Since we’ve started dating, we’ve always shared our personal and professional goals and dreams. We talked about the “one day” and “what if’s”…but now for whatever reason, we are set on making our dreams a reality. We talk about what we need from each other to move forward, and what we can each do to make whatever it is we need, happen. We both want to be successful and happy, and while we realize we might have to make some sacrifices now, we are on the same page in terms of having our long-term goals be our motivation.

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we may be a team but we can still challenge each other to drinking contests (he usually wins)

5. We rely on each other more. I’m super close to my parents, especially my mom. We talk almost every single day. And while I don’t want that to change, I do realize that Ryan is my person to confide in now. That doesn’t mean that I still won’t tell my mom just about everything, but I also need to clue him in just as much as her. Example: I got a flat tire the other day and the first person I was about to call was my dad…but I didn’t. I needed to call my husband. He’s my go-to person now and that is going to take some time to get used to. My parents have been my go-to people for 26 years…and change is hard.

6. My family is his family. And vice-versa. Before I would say “Ryan’s niece” or “Ryan’s brother,” but now I’m learning to say “my niece” and “my brother-in-law.” It’s really cool to all of a sudden have a HUGE amount of people that are automatically inducted into your family. I come from a very small immediate family of only 5 people including me. I gained 11 immediate family members when I married Ryan and that’s pretty cool.

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7. I still need to hang with the girls. I love hanging out with Ryan…it’s honestly one of my favorite things to do. I realize, though, that it’s really important to still have my girl time. Sometimes I just NEED it. Ryan doesn’t get why I watch 10 episodes of The Real Housewives, or why I have to go shopping once a month, or why I need to get a pedicure TODAY–and that’s ok. My girls do get it. It’s so important that I maintain my lady friendships.

Image8. I still need time for myself. This one is really hard for me because honestly, I don’t like being alone. I’d much rather be with people than by myself. I know it’s still important to just be alone, even if it’s for a short amount of time. And by being alone, I don’t mean that you have tobe  completely alone, but just not with other people you know. My alone time is usually spent working out. I don’t go to yoga or the gym with friends that often because I know how important it is to just take that hour to focus on myself. It’s my time to zone out, think through things, and work on becoming a better version of myself.

9. There aren’t many secrets anymore. Like I said, we lived together for awhile before we got married, so it’s not like there was really much to share after we got married–at least not in the verbal sense. I’ve always been pretty comfortable physically around Ryan, but I would never, ever change my clothes completely in front of him. On our honeymoon, I found myself getting out of my swimsuit and into my next outfit right in the middle of the room. I didn’t think much about it–until he said something. I realize that I’m so much more comfortable in all senses around him now that he’s my husband, and there’s no reason to hide anymore—at least not all the time.

10. I’m a Mrs. This has been the biggest change in the past month. I have a new name, I have a husband, and now I’m a Mrs. In my mind, the term Mrs. was saved for ladies who were 1st and 3rd grade teachers. It never really hit me that I would someday be one. “I’m Kelly and this is my husband, Ryan” is also really weird to say. I hear you get used to it, but change is strange.

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Clearly, I’m not an expert in my short 30 days of being a wife. I have a lot to learn…but I’m really lucky that I have a great partner in crime to learn new things with. Cheers to marriage!

You don’t eat meat? But how do you get PROTEIN?

Whenever I tell someone I’m a vegetarian, it never fails that they always come back at me with the following questions:

  • How do you get your protein?
  • What in the world do you eat then?
  • So, do you eat eggs?
  • Do you ever eat a steak?
  • You must only eat bread.

At first, I would get really annoyed when people asked me these questions,but, after a few years of being a vegetarian and learning how to educate myself and others about the science behind vegetarianism, I realize people just don’t understand.

I was a pretend vegetarian in college for awhile after reading Skinny Bitch…and I say pretend because I remember eating a Chipotle burrito with chicken in it and then later realizing that I wasn’t supposed to eat chicken. I had my slipups. The biggest problem was that I didn’t know how to eat once meat was out of my diet. So, I had a bagel for breakfast, grilled cheese for lunch, and pasta for dinner. Holy carbs!! My college vegetarian stint only lasted a short while, but the purpose behind it stayed with me.

I’ve never enjoyed cooking meat. Something about the rawness and knowing that what I was about to eat was a living and breathing thing just really bothered me. It bothered me so much that I stopped preparing chicken and turkey so I didn’t have to handle it raw. I knew there was something more to it than the visual grossness that got to me, but I felt like I NEEDED that animal meat to stay alive and healthy.

In May 2012, my brother and his wife announced that they were vegans. They were only a week in, but after watching a few other documentaries on the farming industry and animal cruelty, they quit eating all animal products cold turkey (pun intended). I pretty much believe everything my brother says so I decided that he must be on to something. The next day I rented Forks Over Knives and Food Inc. and made Ryan watch them with me.

I cried. I gagged. I sobbed. I felt ashamed. I felt sick, . felt miserable. That was all it took. I was finished. Ryan and I had some major fights about it and I, in my rage of horror and madness, told him that he was a horrible person for ever wanting to eat meat again! (It only took him a few more weeks before he also cut out meat from his diet as well…win!)

Eventually, my heart rate dropped and I started doing some more research. I knew I never wanted to eat meat again, but I wanted to have a solid defense as to why, and at the same time, I wanted to make sure I was taking care of my body. Here are some fun food facts that you might not know:

  • We need about 35-55 grams of protein a day. The average American eats 70-100 grams a day.
  • The average American gets 67% of his or her dietary protein from animal sources, compared with a world-wide average of 34%
  • A factory farm is a large-scale industrial operation that houses thousands of animals raised for food—such as chickens, turkeys, cows, and pigs—and treats them with hormones and antibiotics to prevent disease and maximize their growth and food output
  • Every second, one football field of rainforest is destroyed in order to produce 257 hamburgers.
  • Limit the animal-fare and you’ll be reducing your likelihood for heart disease. Fatty red meats and many processed meats are high in saturated fat, which raises LDL (bad) cholesterol and increases risk of coronary heart disease
  •  In one study of more than 35,000 women published in the British Journal of Cancer, those who ate the most red and processed meat were found to have the highest risk of breast cancer. Other research has linked meat consumption to colon, prostate, pancreatic, and gastric cancers as well.

Am I a perfect vegetarian? No. I do eat fish every now and then, so I guess that truly makes me a pescatarian. The only reason why I morally can still eat fish is because I haven’t done any research on the abuse of fish–not to say it doesn’t bother me a little, but it’s the chickens, cows, pigs, etc., that bother me the most.

Now, I balance my diet with real, whole foods. I eat a lot of beans, brown rice, quinoa, vegetables, fruit, and wine. I also eat meat substitutes like tofu and tempeh.

Am I a vegan? No. Do I try to be? Yes. I have significantly cut out dairy in my diet simply because it makes my stomach so upset. I have a very hard time, however, turning down a cheese plate with my glass of wine. I’m working on it. I also eat eggs–I’m working on cutting back on that as well.

I try my best to eat a diet that I can feel morally good about, and at the same time, keeps my body healthy and functioning properly. I think that everyone should become educated about what they are putting into their body. If someone eats meat in front of me, I will not judge them or say anything. Everyone is entitlted to their own opinions and choices. I have found what works best for my body and my lifestyle.

Everyone believes different things and everyone has their own specific reasons. I wanted to share mine…and please note that I’m sure my reasons are completely different than yours (vegetarian or not). Heck, even my husband, who is a vegetarian, is only one mainly because of the health benefits he’s noticed since he stopped eating meat–not because he wants to save all the animals like his crazy wife.

So, I challenge you to try going meat free for just one day a week. You might be surprised how easy it really is. Need an extra push?

The Humane Society of the United States estimates that if every American cut out meat just once a week, about 1.4 billion animals could be spared each year.

Here’s a great article with great reasons to become a vegetarian.

Sources: http://www.happycow.net/why_vegetarian.html, peta.org, https://www.dosomething.org/tipsandtools/11-facts-about-animals-and-factory-farms, http://www.womenshealthmag.com/nutrition/vegetarian-benefits,